Coffee Shop Etiquette: Where Everyone Knows Your Name

I like to hang out at a local coffee shop. I’ll go there alone, or sometimes with my wife. I will read and/or write and if my wife is there, she will knit.  On occasion I will meet a friend there and we will solve world issues or plan whatever our next big thing is going to be.

I have loved this place from the first moment I walked in there about a year and a half ago and we view it as our local Cheers, where everybody knows your name. At the very least, most in there are a familiar face. Now that I have established this scenario for you, let me share a specific incident that happened to me recently.

My seat in this place is on a love seat which happens to be paired with a matching chair and they are arranged in a way to have a conversation with one or two friends. I’m sure I’m not the only one that views that particular corner as their own but as far as I’m concerned, when I’m there, it is rightfully mine.

My Corner of the Coffee Shop

One Saturday morning, I’m sitting there doing my thing and actually waiting for my wife to show up when someone came up and asked to sit in the chair next to me. I declined his offer while at the same time explaining my dilemma of my wife showing up soon. The place was mostly empty so it wasn’t like seating was at a premium. He moved on.

Within 10 minutes, someone else came up and just sat down. He didn’t ask permission or anything, he simply took what was not rightfully his, in my opinion.  It was at this moment when I became acutely aware of how large my space bubble actually was and clearly, we had an invasion. If I know you and you walk up, of course you can sit down and you will be welcome into my space.  If I don’t know you and you sit down against my will, then it’s an invasion.

Back to the scene of the crime. I’m adjusting to my new reality of not having my space unencumbered when my new “friend” crossed his legs, putting his ankle on his knee.  The sole of his shoe is now 6″ away from my knee! At this point, I’m twitching!

I may have unusual space standards, I really don’t know. I actually had to leave shortly after he got comfy, or I feared I would implode but I wasn’t sure if I should give him a hug or what the appropriate departure should be.

Is there such a thing as coffee shop etiquette? Are there certain rules that should be observed or is it a free for all? Am I out of line for thinking that loveseat/chair arrangement all belongs to me? Maybe it’s time to write down these unwritten rules that we all seem to know but we clearly don’t all adhere to.

What are your top coffee shop etiquette rules?

Legend of Grimrock Devs Implement GUI Change Just to Help One User

I was browsing through imgur and saw the following image that tells a really heart-warming story. It seems that a user named [HarpoonIPA] on the Grimrock.net forums made a post asking if old-school dungeon-crawler style buttons might be included in the game. The responding dev [Petri] made note that they did not have a UI like that currently set up but, made sure to ask his customer why he wanted such an old-school control scheme. [HarpoonIPA] responded noting that he had a disability and stated that he used a mouth stick to control games. The old-school control style made it easier for him to play. So what did [Petri] do? He immediately implemented an entirely new UI option for one, single user.


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Do Fringe Religious Nuts want all copies of Skyrim burned? Or is it all just a Big Joke?

If you are not already familiar, www.whitehouse.gov now allows any US citizen 13 years or older to create an online petition for pretty much anything in the hopes of drawing the attention of the President. As far as I have seen this has been much less a tool for the people and more a method of placation but, perhaps I am wrong.

Our Certain Doom

I should preface by saying that it is not clear whether this petition is just an inflammatory joke posting, or the real deal. Poe’s law is in full effect on this, but just for fun, I’m gonna take this one to be real. On to the stupid shit. It seems that on November 24th someone created a petition regarding the new hit videogame, Skyrim. Specifically, the person is claiming that it is widely known that videogames are destroying the moral fabric of society, are physically deadly to teens, encourage homosexuality, promote violent behaviour and are destroying the “Christian foundations on which this nation was built”. Well, one can only hope. I mean if you’ve played Skyrim then you have obviously by now watched the scene where the giant clubs another one repeatedly, forcibly bends him over one of his Mammoths and, rapes his ass unmercifully while simultaneously chanting Satanic rites and reading “The God Delusion” by Richard Dawkins, right? No. You haven’t and, sadly neither have I. I think we should petition the game’s creators to put that in the game somewhere.

Please, enjoy for a moment the full text of the petition:

WE PETITION THE OBAMA ADMINISTRATION TO:

Immediately Ban the Deadly Videogame Known as “SkyRim” for The Safety of America’s Youths.

Whereas videogaming has proven to cause social, ethical and health problems in people of all ages,

Whereas sexual perversion and homosexuality are threatening to destroy the Christian foundations on which this nation was built,

Whereas a new video game has just been created that far exceeds any others in the psychological and spiritual damage it does to teens,

We, the American people, today ask you,

1) To enact an immediate ban on the videogame known as “SkyRim” produced by Blizzard Entertainment.

2) To seize and destroy all copies already in public hands and erase its presence on the internet.

3) To prosecute the players of “SkyRim” to the fullest extent of the law.

4) To create a national database of videogame avatars and “screen names” so that teenagers can be better monitored.

Homophobia and Lack of Evidence

So, allow me to begin tearing this fear-mongering, baseless, homophobic shit apart. To begin, this man’s entire premise is false. There are no conclusive studies linking videogames specifically to increased violent behavior or homosexuality. There are plenty that attempt to suggest it but, their results have as yet not been replicated. A solid example of this and, one that is used regularly by right wing pundits is the study “Effects of violent video games on aggressive behavior, aggressive cognition, aggressive affect, physiological arousal, and prosocial behavior: A meta-analytic review of the scientific literature” by Anderson, C.A., & Bushman, B.J. (2001). In this study, the researchers claim the following:

“Research on exposure to television and movie violence suggests that playing violent video games will increase aggressive behavior. A metaanalytic review of the video-game research literature reveals that violent video games increase aggressive behavior in children and young adults.Experimental and nonexperimental studies with males and females in laboratory and field settings support this conclusion. Analyses also reveal that exposure to violent video games increases physiological arousal and aggression-related thoughts and feelings. Playing violent video games also decreases prosocial behavior.”

As I stated previously the results of this study and many other similar studies have simply not been replicated in lab or public settings. As of 2010 the American Psychological Association was quoted as stating “Bad effects depend on certain personality traits; games can offer learning opportunities for others” regarding violence in videogames. I am unsure as to the source of the petition creators information but I would certainly hope to see some supporting research in a petition intended to reach the President of the United States of America. This isn’t the fucking PTA, you aren’t going to make your point with hyperbolic statements and conjecture.

Now let’s take a look at how this game supposedly promotes homosexuality and, how that is “… threatening to destroy the Christian foundations on which this nation was built”. The petition claims that Skyrim promotes this type of sexual behavior and that this is in itself a bad and destructive thing. So from the jump here, we are meant to understand that being gay is bad and that videogames are teaching teens to have sex with members of the same sex and, that this is an attempt to destroy Christianity in America. If it’s not clear by now I support gay marriage and I would consider anyone who feels to the contrary to be a bigoted and hateful person. As for the game itself, Skyrim allows a player character to marry an in-game character of the same sex, that is all. There are no depictions of sex between the player character and other characters at all. So not only is this claim bigoted, it is also without evidence. I will grant that the logical next step after marriage is sex but, if the argument is that by implying the act, the game has encouraged it, then I would have to disagree. It is safe to assume that most people know that homosexual sex acts occur between people but, this knowledge does not incite the act in those people. Knowledge of something or even seeing something occur does not predestine a person to do that same thing later.

Poor Research

Finally, on to my last issue with this petition; the citing of Blizzard Entertainment as the producer of Skyrim. This is quite possibly the best piece of evidence to suggest that this is a hoax petition as Skyrim is produced by Bethesda Softworks which is owned by Zenimax Media Inc. It has no direct relation to Blizzard Entertainment. If this petition is real and meant to be taken seriously I should hope that the creator would have been smart enough to point his finger at the people that he wanted punished. However, this is also written by a seemingly homophobic and clearly irate person so, perhaps it’s best that I not assume them to be rational or capable of researching their own viewpoints. Again, Poe’s Law is strong with this one.

Truth or Fiction?

It is tough to say whether this is the real deal or not but then such is the way with many similar posts on the internet. The reality of the fiery hatred, racism, sexism, fear-mongering and, flat-out lies of many religious nuts on the internet will always be hard to distinguish from the posts meant to incense and anger people for the enjoyment of the originator (i.e. trolling). There is much argument about whether this petition actually originated from a post on the religious fear parody site, Christwire or not. This has not been proven but I can certainly see the possibility. If it is indeed parody then I applaud them for helping draw attention to the absurdities of religious extremism, if it is real then please re-read my previous statement.

 

References: 

Anderson, C.A., & Bushman, B.J. (2001). Effects of violent video games on aggressive behavior, aggressive cognition, aggressive affect, physiological arousal, and prosocial behavior: A meta-analytic review of the scientific literature. Psychological Science, 12, 353-359

“Violent Video Games May Increase Aggression in Some But Not Others, Says New Research”. apa.org. American Psychological Association. Retrieved 28 November 2011.

Police at UC Davis Pepper Spray Non-Violent Students

I’m neither for or against the “Occupy” movement, but I am definitely a supporter of the US Constitution which guarantees:

…the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances…

Yesterday, police at UC Davis demonstrated that they don’t value that particular edict established by the people when they turned a can of riot control pepper spray on a peaceful group of students sitting on the ground. The entire event was captured on video and in photos.

The man responsible for the attack on these citizens is UC Davis Police Lt. John Pike.
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An Open Letter to Best Buy CTO, Robert Stephens

 

Robert,

I read an article today that referenced a comment you made at the Android Open conference. From what I am hearing you said something to the effect that you envision a day when the DVD section of Best Buy stores might be replaced with a section dedicated to Arduino development boards and homebrew electronics. That Best Buy, one of the largest retailers in the country might actually start selling easily accessible technology that allows the user to create and learn something. I must admit that when I think of Best Buy I think of camcorders, MP3 players, cell phones, tablets and TVs. And the over-simplified image that I have of the customer base is largely uninformed consumers who have little interest in how their devices work. I will be the first to tell you that this is my nerd bias and that while it may be right to some degree it is certainly not true of all of them. After all, I shop at Best Buy too.
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NEVER Pay to be “On The News”!

Today I got this random call from God-knows-who claiming to be a PR agent looking for “people in my industry”. Here is Google Voice’s translation of the message:

Steve. Hello. Just give me this is Riley (815) 633-3375 and I’m calling it’s fox news and ABC News are looking to do an interview and I need someone in your industry and I did happen to come across your name and number, see if you’d be interested in being in on Fox News at ABC, but we don’t work for the of the stations. But we are, P R firm and we charge $900. If you choose to do the story in at a it doesn’t hear that you don’t pay. Please call me today (815) 633-3375.

The translation is terrible, but the point is that this was a random cold call from someone who clearly didn’t even know who I was offering to get me on TV news. And if you ever, ever get a call like this you should NOT do it. Let’s talk about why…
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Why The Loss of Steve Jobs Matters

Steve Jobs Apple SilhouetteI’ve been impressed at how well behaved people have been regarding the death of Steve Jobs. While I knew a great many of us, especially those in the tech industry, would be affected and take the event to heart, I also expected the usual array of trolls to come out and shoot down the importance of Steve Jobs with little regard to his impact.

By now, we’ve all had a chance to think, read and hear about how Steve, and Apple, have impacted life as we know it. They brought us devices that changed the way we interacted, worked and socialized. They found the balance to walk the fine line between beauty, simplicity and functionality, while making devices so intuitive that a 2 year old can pick one up and make it work.

Countless businesses have been built on what Apple started and entire industries changed because of Jobs vision.

But I think that is only half of the story as to why so many people are so taken back by the loss of Steve Jobs.

So for the few dissenting voices, or those who think we’re making too big of a deal about this, I’d like to put into context why his loss is so significant right now.

We live the age of Arthur Andersen, Bernie Ebbers and Bernie Madoff. When companies lay off people by the 10′s of thousands while CEO’s take multi-million dollar bonuses.

We’re inundated by stories of Enron, Lehman Brothers and politicians who vilify corporations while accepting their campaign donations.

Let’s face it, our view of Corporate America is disenchanted at best and downright hated at worst.

Then there was Steve and Apple.

While I’m not so naive to believe that Apple has never done anything questionable, or ruthless (which is often business by it’s very nature), they were in the business of improving our lives through technology and did so in a way most of us have come to strongly appreciate. They gave us devices we love and helped make technology what it should be, a compliment to our lives, not a means to overcomplicate it.

Apple isn’t alone, there are other great companies out there and surely others will rise. But Apple was the shining example and most importantly, gave us something to look forward to.

Apple isn’t perfect, nothing ever is. But in a time when Corporate America is riddled with scandal, distrust and can’t seem to get it right, Apple did, and it was Steve’s vision that got them there.

My business exists largely because of Apple. Everyone I work with at  Livid Lobster (parent company of GeekBeat.tv) is here because of Apple.

How did Apple affect your life?

 

Focus On What Matters

There are many things that can be taken away from a person – possessions, freedom, health, happiness, even dignity. But there are some things no one can take from you, like knowledge, courage, friendship, and love.

Remember that when you find you’re focusing attention on things that are fleeting, and try investing in things that can’t be devalued.

Have a great day!

Dying Father Saves Daughter’s Life on September 11

On September 11, 2001, Madeleine Cunningham was employed as an auditor with the New York State Department of Taxation and Finance.  Their offices were located on the 86th and 87th floors of the south tower of World Trade Center 2. Thirty-nine of her co-workers perished on that terrifying day and she could have been one of them, however Madeleine had bittersweet fortune of not being in the office. This is just one of so many stories that happened on that historically tragic day.
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