Its a sad day, but one that was destined to come – not because of what I’ve done, but because Neal Campbell has been defaming me for nearly a year and there are no signs that he’s ever going to let up. What makes the story more sad is that Neal is someone I used to consider a friend.
What happened? Neal’s wife, Cali Lewis, decided to leave him. And when she did, my wife and I eventually took her side. And as far as Neal is concerned, that is reason to “rebuke you in the name of Jesus”. Yep. He did that to at least three or four people I know of as soon as they questioned what he was telling them about the whole mess.
It Didn’t Have To Be This Way
Neal and Cali had problems. Lots of people do. And sometimes marriages fail. Actually over half of marriages end in divorce according to Jennifer Baker. (Here’s the report: Half of Marriages End in Divorce).
Cali had a number of what I would consider to be extremely valid reasons for leaving (ie- I’d bet $1M you’d leave too…), and after she did Neal immediately acknowledged his faults to a number of people including myself, but then later began withdrawing his admissions and shifting blame.
Had Neal continued to accept his responsibility and taken steps to change, as far as I can tell, he would have still ended up divorced – but he would have been able to maintain some sort of a relationship with Cali, he would have been able to continue to work with her (likely on GeekBrief.TV) and the core group of people around the two of them would have continued to support him and be there for him.
But within 2-3 weeks he completely changed his position and decided that none of it was his fault, and everything was mine.
Let the Beatings Begin
As far as I can tell when Neal decides you are no longer useful – you become the enemy. At the beginning we conversed via chat and email. I told him that I would help both him and Cali. And he admitted that he was to blame. But while we chatted he also wanted to use me to convince Cali to come back to him. Or meet with him somewhere. When I refused to try and intercede on his behalf, he turned against me.
Over the coming weeks, and then months, Neal acted with conviction and malice to try and convince anyone who would listen to him that Cali had “abandoned God”, and that I was the primary cause of it. He called me evil, satanic, and a number of other things – and his insults were always sharpest in the early morning.
Why Would He Do That?
I don’t know. I can understand that going through a separation or divorce would be a very emotional time. I can even understand being angry and blaming people. But it is not rational to lash out publicly, and often, especially when the people whom you have decided to attack know all of your terrible secrets.
And why would a person take this sort of attack onto the Internet and do it in front of thousands of people on Twitter and Facebook? Was it some sort of a pre-emptive attack designed to undermine the integrity of the people who could share the full truth of the situation to the world?
Personally I would have thought that silence would be the best course of action, as opposed to starting a war. But I’m not Neal. And I guess in the middle of all this mess Neal forgot that I’m not the kind of person who would ever tolerate his attacks.
But Why Did You Sue Him?
- Neal defamed me repeatedly for nearly a year both privately and to an audience of literally thousands of people on Twitter and Facebook. Although I have refrained from responding out of respect for Cali I will no longer ignore the attacks. I am further convinced that Neal will never stop unless forced to.
- We may live in a free society, but individual free speech has limits. I’d be fine with Neal telling the world that he hates me, or calling me names; but when one person maliciously spreads lies in order to damage another’s reputation someone has to put an end to it.
- Lets face it, the fact that I didn’t fight back is viewed by some people as taking the high road, but by others a long and sustained silence is tanamount to an admission of guilt. My silence has come to an end.
He’s No Saint
If you head over to Neal’s blog, or his Twitter account, or Facebook page virtually all you will see is talk of religion. He would have you believe he is the most faithful, God-fearing, community oriented Christian you’ve ever met – though I dare you to disagree with him about anything (literally, anything). And then see what happens.
If you go back and read his posts you will also see him repeatedly claiming that what he wants is to have Cali back, to go to marriage counseling, to save her from me, etc. Yet exactly one week after their divorce was finalized he told Cali that he is engaged and getting married again and would like her blessing! This can only mean that all of his public grief was merely an act designed to maximize sympathy for his position while he was obviously perfectly happy with whomever is now his fiance.
Well, Neal is an amazing actor but I’ve compiled an absolute moutain of evidence that demonstrates his sustained, malicious and attacking behavior which has been going on the entire time he professes to be pursuing his Christian ideals. And on top of that, I’ve got witnesses who are more than happy to share their personal stories of betrayal. Hopefully some of them will even chime in here…
In this instance, my attorneys assure me that we have an open and shut case of libel per se. And I’m looking forward to finally getting the full story on record in a court of law.
Ok, But Why Break the Silence and Post This Now?
Neal’s whereabouts are literally unknown. As far as we know, he moved in with whomever he is planning on marrying and has been living with her for a while. But no one knows where that is, so I don’t have an address to have him served at.
Since I promised Neal long ago that if he ever angered me enough to do something about it I would let him know in no uncertain terms, I thought it only fair to make sure he is aware that he has actually been sued so that he can answer the suit rather than skipping our court date and just having a summary judgement issued against him.